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Fatherhood is a Journey – A New Paradigm

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Realizing that I needed to grow just as Joaquin was growing, I started looking for resources to support me in what was sure to be an emotional journey. Sure, there are father’s advocacy groups and organizations dedicated to maintaining the traditional family structure, but as for resources that addressed the personal development of fatherhood – nothing. I found magazines, support groups, books, blogs, and newspaper articles for expectant and new mothers.

Sure, there are father’s advocacy groups and organizations dedicated to maintaining the traditional family structure, but as for resources that addressed the personal development of fatherhood – nothing. Even as a new father, I recognized that failure to acknowledge the inner work that must accompany fatherhood could have dire consequences on my personal and family life. The dramatic increase in stay at home dads proves that the model of fatherhood is changing rapidly for the better. Without recognition that change requires inner work, we run the risk of missing out on all the opportunities that fatherhood provides to become a better man, a better partner, and a better global citizen. A fellow new dad once told me that fatherhood was wonderful because it burns up all of your bad habits.

Whether you’re expecting your first child or your kids are grown and on their own, being a dad is a new experience. After nine months of preparing to support my wife in the birth of my first child, there I was, with no medical training, serving as doula, doctor, and midwife. When I caught Joaquin, I experienced pure exhilaration and love.

Even as a new father, I recognized that failure to acknowledge the inner work that must accompany fatherhood could have dire consequences on my personal and family life. My own father told my mother that he wasn’t ready to be a father after I was born. The logistical aspects of fatherhood aren’t what tear families apart through neglect and divorce.

The dramatic increase in stay at home dads proves that the model of fatherhood is changing rapidly for the better. Without recognition that change requires inner work, we run the risk of missing out on all the opportunities that fatherhood provides to become a better man, a better partner, and a better global citizen. A fellow new dad once told me that fatherhood was wonderful because it burns up all of your bad habits.

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